Often, when we feel troublesome emotions like anger, irritation, anxiety, worry, fear, jealousy, envy, guilt and shame we simply allow those emotions to dictate our choices and behavior. We kick the cat, text our child for the 20th time that day, avoid that difficult conversation, work harder to prove we are good enough, fight with our spouse or eat things we know we shouldn’t.
Last blog we said that forgiveness is participating in something supernatural. It is a choice to be like God by depending on God for the grace to love those who have hurt and offended us. Today we want to outline the actual steps of the forgiveness process.
Step 1. Put words to who and what exactly need to be forgiven and grieve the event.
Experiencing anger and conflict in life is inevitable but responding to those experiences in helpful ways is not. In fact, research tells us the number one reason relationships fail (work relationships, marriages, parent-child relationships, friendships, our relationship with God) is due to unresolved conflict.
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